Friday, May 1, 2009
Emotional Intelligence - Section H
The emotional intelligence presentation focused on ten tips to improving your emotional intelligence. The tips included an applied definition, and and "take action" steps. Please post in this blog on one of these tips. First, choose a tip to begin your journey to improving your emotional intelligence. Discuss why you are choosing this tip, and then, tell me how you plan on putting these suggestions for "take action" in play in your own life to promote your own emotional intelligence.
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Emotional intelligence can be defined as using your emotions, feelings, and moods as a source of information that allows you to act more efficiently in everyday life. A tip that I will use to begin my journey to improving my emotional intelligence would be tip # 10. Tip # 10 would be to make tasks underwhelming, not overwhelming. The reason why I chose this tip is because I would not like to stress on everyday tasks as much as I do. A perfect example would be finals. The most important part of motivation is perception of belief. If I am capable of changing my perception of the task, such as studying for finals, I can prevent becoming overwhelmed by it. Dr. Wissinger stated that by keeping calm, and staying focused, an individual can be much more productive. It’s essential to focus on one topic at a time compared to several. By concentrating on several topics at once, a person will become overwhelmed and less productive. By using tip # 10 and being able to use if effectively in time, I will be able to practice the other ten tips which will consequently make me a more emotional intelligent individual.
ReplyDeleteIn order to improve emotional intelligence, it is very important to have a sense of humor, as pointed out in the presentation. Humor is defined as a comic quality causing amusement, basically making things more interesting. As pointed out by the speaker, humor can mean that you are keeping your job. For example, if I’m the boss and I have 4 people of which I have to fire 3 and they all have the same production level, I’m going to keep the one with a sense of humor, because that helps relieve stress and creates a happier more productive work environment. It is vital to have a sense of humor and joke around in difficult working situation because that helps people take things lighter and is a benefactor in achieving success. But it is also important how you use your sense of humor. Make sure you do not offend anyone, because in that situation humor can cause damage and ruin relationships between co-workers. You must understand that the person you are joking around with must have a sense of humor so they will be understand your remarks.
ReplyDeleteI chose to ‘observe my behavior’ in aspiration of better understanding my emotional intelligence.
ReplyDeleteI selected this tip because while living at school, my mannerisms and reactions to my friends from back home have changed. Towards the end of last summer, I started to realize that I had encountered a problem, but without any time left at home, I did not have the resources to modify my behavior. After gaining the knowledge about how to modify my actions, I now have this summer to revert to the person that I truly am and want to be. The ‘action step’ that Dr. Weisinger suggested for observing behavior is to come up with a secret code with a friend so that whenever I was acting in a certain way it could be brought to my attention. By increasing my awareness of the habits that I have developed, I can then replace them with reactions that are more appropriate.
Body language and behavior explains everything that your mind is thinking. By observing my behavior and being more aware of my actions, I can then use that knowledge to my advantage. For example, if I am already with a friend at a certain location and we both see someone that I am not too fond of, by taking the silent clue from my friend, instead of turning my head and ignoring this person, I would invite her to come and sit down with us to catch up on recent events. Who knows, this gesture might even allow me to develop a network with this person, which in time, may translate into a job offer. If I were not aware of my behavior in that situation with the aid of my friend, I would still possibly be unemployed. This is why I would like to learn ‘how to observe my behavior’ in order to improve my emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence is the act of using the emotions, feelings, and moods of those around you as a source of information that allows u to act in a correct manner. One aspect of emotional intelligence is being able to give and take criticism, which is why I chose tip #8, that says people should practice the power of positive criticism. I chose this tip because a huge part of my life consists of college volleyball. Ways of communicating vary from player to player and it is required of me to recognize HOW to talk to the many different personalities playing on the court. Since communication is a necessity in volleyball, I believe that by improving my power of positive criticism, I could become a more effective communicator and, therefore, a stronger leader.
ReplyDeleteI've discovered from my many years playing volleyball that it is not just WHAT you say to another player that can affect their productivity during a game, but it is HOW you say something. It is pretty simple how one is to practice positive criticism, all you have to do is have high self-awareness. When I am playing, and the moment is intense, and all that is running through my head is how to put the ball down on the other side of the court, I'm not caring about how a teammate feels or what is running through their mind, all I care about is winning that point at all costs. So what is required of me in that moment, is strong self-control and a heightened awareness of what is coming out of my mouth. It has always been hard for me to rein in my competitive nature and take into account how someone reacts to what I say to them and how I say it, but I am getting better. I think being able to control your words and say things in a positive way comes with age and experience. But I am most certainly making progress toward better ways to express criticism positively, and I think it is because of a heightened self-awareness, self-control, a better understanding of emotional intelligence, and little reminders from my coaches.
Emotional intelligence is using your emotions, feelings, and moods as a source of information that allows you to react effectively in different kinds of situations. Emotions are normally correct and should not be ignored. The speaker, Hank Weisinger shared with the audience ten quick tips on how to improve one’s emotional intelligence. The first tip he explained was learning to listen to how you talk to yourself. I feel this tip is very important in improving emotional intelligence because like the speaker stated, a person must turn setbacks into comebacks. If a person talks positively to themselves, then they can quickly turn a setback into a comeback. Setbacks become worse when someone continually talks to themselves pessimistically. I feel I am a little hard on myself when I talk to myself. On the tennis court, if I miss a shot or double fault on my serve I immediately start muttering under my breath. One missed shot can shake my confidence and put me in a bad mood for the rest of the match. I have to be nicer to myself, take a step back, and realize it was just only one shot. The take action suggested by the speaker was to take five minutes, three times a day and simply listen to how you talk to yourself. Is it negative or positive? The tip is very clever because it is simple and easy to do. Also, you get to know yourself better by just listening to yourself. As an athlete if I can learn to how to effectively listen to myself and control my emotions, then I can achieve more success by not getting caught up in negative thoughts. I feel if I take action and follow his advice my tennis game could improve and other facets of life will become more enjoyable as well.
ReplyDeleteIn order to reach success, one must take action. Dr. Weisinger, in his speech, talks about emotional intelligence. Emotions are contagious; people pick up the moods of others around them. To improve my emotional intelligence I will focus on practicing positive criticism. As Dr. Weisinger stated, passive people always put themselves in the victim’s role, and aggressive people get what they want in the short-run. I chose tip number 8, because people usually respond to criticism in a negative way, including myself. Criticism is a vital factor to becoming a better communicator.
ReplyDeleteAs a perfectionist, I do not like when my flaws are pointed out. I become defensive and intimidated. However, college as taught me that criticism can be beneficial. Majoring in accounting, I realized that I need someone to tell me what I am doing wrong and how I can improve. I am beginning my job search by going on interviews and shadowing opportunities. To prepare myself, I went to a mock interview with Anne Mandel. I learned so much from it. After the mock interview, Anne pointed out my errors and gave me ways to enhance my interviewing skills. She told me to have a stronger handshake and to be very enthusiastic to show my passion for accounting. She told me what to say and what not to say. It was hard to hear her give me a list of the things I did wrong, but I know in the long-run it will help me in many ways. To take action I must know the criteria; I need to realize when criticism is constructive. Every person makes mistakes and the only way they will learn it to have someone evaluate their performance. I will learn to accept criticism without becoming protective and defensive. I am slowly getting used to criticism because I know it should be looked at positively, instead of negatively, in order to succeed in life.
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ReplyDeleteHank Wisinger came to Rider University and did a presentation on emotional intelligence. He taught everyone about self awareness and how to manage your emotions. He continued to say that self motivation is the key characteristic of leaders. Hank stated there were ten steps to have success in own life equivocating to emotional intelligence. The fist step is to learn to listen to how you talk to yourself. Use your thoughts to help your self awareness. Next, use your thoughts as instructional self stableness. Third is being aware of your intentions, or directions. He recommended candid camera session. This would be a five minute a day formula for laughter. Formal joke sessions and sense of humor will also provide a successful life. Another very important rule was to learn how to deal with criticism. Learn how to be better. How can I do better?
ReplyDeleteThrough sports I have learned that you need to be able to take the good with the bad. No one is perfect and being able to take criticism is a great aspect. Just as hank said it is a lead to emotional intellegince.
Emotional intelligence is a term that describes the ability, capacity, skill or ability, to identify, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. When Dr. Weisinger talked in his speech about ten quick tips on how to become more emotionally intelligent, and the most relevant and important one in my life was to take small manageable steps. Taking overwhelming tasks and making them more manageable is extremely important in my life, as I am constantly faced with variety of different tasks to do. If I can make these daunting tasks more manageable, I can become more successful in anything that I do. One of the ways that I can better manage my tasks is to change the perspective of the task and take it in one step at a time. An example of this could be with a couple of term papers that I'd have to complete throughout a time period in the semester. If I simply looked at the whole picture, I'd be overwhelmed with the amount of work and I would look at the two term papers and procrastinate. However, if I change the outlook on the assignments and view each paper as one, I will go about completing each paper a little bit at a time and those two term papers will seem much more reasonable. I can simply figure out which one is due earlier in the time frame and start on that one as quickly as possible. I can then take a break depending on the amount of time I have left till the paper is due, and work on a few paragraphs a night. Breaking the assignments apart this way helps ease the difficulty of the tasks ahead. If I follow Dr. Weisingers advice on taking more manageable steps, I will be able to accomplish more without being overwhelmed in the end. More manageable baby steps are easier to take than overwhelming big steps at the end of the day.
ReplyDeleteEmotional intelligence can be thought of as regarding the emotions, especially in the ability to monitor one's own or others' emotions. A tip that I feel would begin my journey to improving my emotional intelligence is having formal joke sessions. I feel that is tip can be enjoyed my any human and would be a useful task in your day to make it a great day. Laughter and jokes can be that one thing you needed to make a positive day or to even get an A+ on that exam instead of a B. To take time out of your day to laugh with your friends, family, co-workers or whomever it maybe would always brighten your day. If I used this tip every day, I feel that each day would be more productive than if I didn’t have this joke session. This would relieve so much stress and keep me calm for the rest of the day and I would benefit from every bit of this joke session. In my life I feel to promote emotional intelligence joke session are necessary to make every day I more productive and happier day.
ReplyDeleteDr. Weisinger gave a very interesting presentation that explained 10 tips for applying emotional management. Simply learning and gaining insight about emotional intelligence is not enough to correctly manage your emotions. Instead, the best method for developing mood management strategies is taking action. It is essential to realize that all emotions are relatively good, even if they bring you down. Your emotions serve as a barometer, and the key is learning how to handle them.
ReplyDeleteThe tip that I personally found most useful was tip #10; underwhelming- not overwhelming. Nobody likes to feel overwhelmed, especially when it comes to academic pressures. It is important to listen to the message of emotions and not feel plagued by them. All emotions are inherently good, for they can reveal problems in your life. When you let overwhelming emotional pressures run through your mind, you are killing any motivation that you might have inside. Weisinger explained that it is important to break down large tasks into smaller, more manageable ones. This tip I can absolutely relate to. Especially now, at a time right before finals week, it is easy for me to feel overwhelmed and swamped with work and studying. It feels like these pressures can trap me to a point where my moods, as well as my day, are ruined. However, when I break down what seems like an endless supply of work into smaller pieces, it changes my perception and how I am feeling. In order to increase my self-motivation, I must turn my setbacks into comebacks. It’s not easy to liberate the feeling of being overwhelmed, but I try and use positive denial. Positive denial is a coping mechanism that helps to avoid feeling overwhelmed. Through applying these actions into my everyday life, I am becoming more understanding of my emotions, and thus, gaining a sense of control over them. It is easy to feel devastated by pressures, but I am slowly learning how to change from feeling overwhelmed and having no motivation to feeling underwhelmed and raising my self-motivation.
Dr. Weisinger spoke on emotional intelligence and ten tips to improving your emotional intelligence. There were many “take action” steps that he shared, but there was one in particular that made me want to take action. On my journey to improving my emotional intelligence, I will start to recognize my own ineffectiveness. This is important because if you are being ineffective in your speaking you will not get anywhere. Dr. Weisinger shared how being able to recognize your own ineffectiveness will help to make you a more effective speaker. Telling someone something a bunch of times the same way with no result, is obviously ineffective to that person. If something was said to someone with the intention of them changing or doing something differently, and that change was not made, it was ineffective and you need to say it differently to them. I believe that this will change the way that I promote my own emotional intelligence. I know that right now I will say things many times and not see any change in the way people are doing things, making me mad. I have realized that I am speaking to them in an ineffective manner and will change the way in which I say things. This will help my emotional intelligence by making me less mad in the long run, and making others less mad because they will be able to understand me better in the long run.
ReplyDeleteDr. Hendrie Weisinger, a psychologist and expert on Emotional Intelligence gave a speech at Rider University, discussing the top ten tips to change emotional intelligence. He first defined emotional intelligence as understanding what your emotions communicate. One tip that Dr. Hendrie Weisinger mentioned that I felt is actually very effective is tip number 7, “Become a problem solver”. Everyone faces numerous dilemmas everyday; if you were able to learn to generate a more effective response to these problems your day could be a lot less stressful. Dr. Hendrie Weisinger explained that creating change in other people is involved in becoming a problem solver. An example that Dr. Hendrie Weisinger used was an issue that his daughter had with her mother. Everyday his wife would ask their daughter about her day at school, everyday the daughter would become annoyed and end up angry and locked up in her room. Finally one day he told his daughter to “beat her to the punch”. Since that day their daughter came home and told her mother every little thing she did at school, until one day her mother finally told her that she didn’t need to share everything about her day. In this scenario the daughter became the problem solver. She realized that her mother was not going to change on her own, so instead the daughter had to reinforce it. Another example that Dr. Hendrie Weisinger used, I found very interesting because I deal with the same problem with my boyfriend. My boyfriend is a backseat driver, he is constantly screaming and stating the obvious, such as red light ahead, slow down or green light, speed up. This drives me absolutely nuts, but just as Dr. Hendrie Weisinger advised, I’m going to “beat him to the punch” I now am the one who states the obvious, and now we laugh about it, in this scenario I exaggerated humor, making the problem into a joke rather than into an argument. I found Dr. Hendrie Weisinger’s top ten tips all very useful and I definitely find myself applying them to my everyday life, making my days a lot less stressful and a lot more simpler.
ReplyDeleteWhen i began watching Dr. Hendrie Weisinger's speech I was not take notes. In the past I have seen days when watching a movie, or in this particular case a movie of a speech, as a class day in which nothing needed to be done. That being said I did not expect to take much out of this speech, however I did my best to take in what he was saying. Before long I found myself engrossed in his speech. One specific thing that he said seemed to really make an impact on me in the few days since watching the speech. He told the audience to take a step back and listen to the way that we speak to ourselves in our head. I have never really thought about the way that I speak to myself. As soon as I began to think about this, I noticed that I speak to myself in a very negative connotation. When he discussed the benefit in telling ourselves we can do certain things in order to self motivate, I found that I had been doing the opposite. I had been telling myself that I didn't know enough for tests in order to, almost, guilt myself into studying. In most cases I find that I do not want to study, or prepare for projects because I tell myself how miserable the experience is going to be. It is because of this speech that I have begun to think about the way that I speak to myself. Through positive thoughts, rather than my previously negative thoughts, I find that it is a lot easier to motivate myself to begin projects earlier, and study earlier.
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