Friday, May 1, 2009
Emotional Intelligence - Section I
The emotional intelligence presentation focused on ten tips to improving your emotional intelligence. The tips included an applied definition and then, "take action" steps. Please post in this blog on one of these tips. First, choose a tip to improve your emotional intelligence. Discuss why you are choosing this tip, and then tell me how you plan on putting the suggested "take action" steps to promote your personal growth of emotional intelligence.
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5. Relax- The speaker said that when you relax you are more healthy and productive. It yields positive results. It is an alternative way to respond to stressful situations. It is important to relax on cue and at any moment. He recommends to practice relaxing in a quiet environment, position yourself in a comfortable position, remember a key phrase like “Be Calm”, don’t adapt a passive attitude, and practice with your family or partner. He said that relaxing will help you to manage your emotions better. I use techniques like this every day; for example I do exercises to relax my body and mind
ReplyDeleteThe first step to improving your emotional intelligence is "Learn to listen to how you talk to yourself." This is an important thing for me to take note on because when I make a mistake or disappoint myself I immediately start speaking to myself in a negative manor. I yell at myself and think about all the things I did wrong. The speaker showed me away to take action by sitting back in my chair 3-5 times a day and listen to how I talk to myself. This will help me become aware of it and use my thoughts to help me gain a better attitude towards myself.
ReplyDeleteI chose tip 5, learn to relax, to take my first step in improving my emotional intelligence. I overreact about many situations I am faced with in my life and I waste my time stressing out rather than relaxing and taking action. I want relaxation to become an alternative action for me to take in order to respond to the tense situations that come my way. Studies show that when a person learns to relax they live a more healthy and productive life. The emotional intelligence presentation spoke of an exercise that can be done to help me relax. The presenter recommended tightening your muscle by making a fist to experience the tension, then to let it go and release the tension. He then gave four steps to relaxing and I plan to implement these steps into my life. The presenter suggests for each individual to (1) find a quiet environment, (2) get into a physically comfortable position, (3) create a key phrase or mental image, and (4) develop a passive attitude. I have decided that my key phrase will be “don’t sweat the small stuff.” I will become more passive by not forcing myself to relax, but instead to allow the steps above to guide me into relaxation.
ReplyDeleteI think the third tip, be aware of your intentions, is an important step to focus on when trying to work on your own emotional intelligence. In life you have to know what you want so you can form a plan and work towards goals that you set for yourself. I know I easily get distracted which throws me off track and makes it more difficult for me to remember what I wanted to accomplish in the first place. By asking yourself simple questions like why am I here and what do I want, you are giving yourself direction and allowing yourself to uncover your intentions. It is important to look at your behavior because you might be doing things you are unaware of that could be telling you how you really feel about things, including people and situations you are in. The action step to take that can help you be aware of you intentions is to think about what you want to accomplish when you first wake up, whether it’s something short-term or long-term, and to write it down. I already do this when I have a lot of assignments due because it keeps me organized. I think it’s a great idea though to write down goals and things you want to accomplish because it will help you stay focused and also be a reminder of encouragement.
ReplyDeleteThe first tip, learn to listen to how you talk to yourself, I believe is the tip that I find most important and most helpful. The speaker mentioned how when we do talk to ourselves, it’s usually negatively and in negative situations. I find this to be true since the only times I do talk to myself is when something goes wrong and I am scolding myself. But as the speaker says, when we are having a bad day and situations happen, talking negatively to ourselves is the worst possible thing that we can do. Now that I realized how I do talk to myself and the tone that I do talk to myself, I can change it to a more positive way and when the day goes wrong I can reassure myself and be able to go on throughout the day without feeling the need to be reassured. By taking time out and talking to myself 3-5 times a day in a positive manner, I’ll be able to see how to fix any problem that I may be facing and even be able to support myself when things go wrong and no one else seems to pick you up. It’s a great way not only to relieve stress you may have but also to build your self esteem and confidence.
ReplyDeleteThe sixth tip that was mentioned, generate humor, was the tip that I see to be the most important and useful to me. I think this is the best tip for me because I find myself in many stressful situations were everything is to serious. The speaker said that everyone should have 10-14 good laughs everyday, because when you laugh it creates endorphins your brain. Positive attitude and humor make a difference, that is why he suggested having daily formal joke secessions to make situations more relaxed and less stressful. He also said that calling people just to tell them a joke will generate humor. When having a bad day he suggested that you go into your room and think of the funniest thing that ever happened to you. All of these facts and suggestions of action that he mentioned will help me promote my growth of emotional intelligence. In the future when I am stressed or having a bad day I am going to try to generate humor by telling jokes to a friend, or just thinking about the funniest thing that has ever happened to me. These actions should help me feel better when stressed.
ReplyDeleteI want to be more focused and aware of my intentions. I feel that this is the most important tip to take in order to attain an emotionally stable living. If you know your intentions the path that you want to take quickly gets unfolded as time passes. Its like a road trip to lets say California, and you are driving at night. You know your destination, and the headlights of your car will keep showing you the next 200 feet as you go along, and you will finally reach you destination. Knowing my goal will help me put my efforts into the right direction. I want to start as an accountant and want to soon own a couple of restaurants of my own. I am, and will continue to collect bits of information on my everyday life as to what a good restaurant must have, and the services it must give. I would keep in mind to observe the intricate things good restaurants have and make a note of these things to make a final brilliant product. I am very absent minded, but this is what I have to work on: being alert, and having my intentions/goals clear.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Tip 5: Learn to Relax. I was actually taught years ago to meditate. I use to do it every day, for about half an hour to an hour. At the time I was over stressed and I found myself a lot calmer when I did meditate. This improved my emotional intelligence because I was less high strung and I was more patient with people. As I became older I found myself meditating less and less as I had more activities and other things to do in high school. I would still meditate, but only for a couple of minuets, which did not really help. It has gotten to the point where I almost never meditate, and when I do it has little to no effect because I am not doing it often enough. This speech has reminded me of how much calmer I was when I did meditate. I think over the summer I will try and get back into the habit of meditating every day, for about half an hour. I believe this will calm me down and improve my overall emotional intelligence.
ReplyDeleteThe tip that I would most like to improve upon sTip 5 which is learn to be relaxed this is an important tip because I feel it is critical in order for one to be successful in the business world one must need to learn when to relax. In my Fundamentals of Management course we talk about how stress effects how stress effects someone at work and also effects one's overall work ethic. It is important to keep motivated and calm just not even at work but in life in general. The speaker stressed a couple of things that I think will help improve my relaxation. He talked about how relaxation is healthy and also is very good for you when dealing with stressful situations. Even though this week is going to be very stressful due to finals I will try and relax as much as I can and think about positive things, like how after I am done with this week I will have 3 months off for summer. Another thing that he taught us was that more than 5,000 doctors back up the fact relaxation is good for you. One of the last things that he told use was that you need to learn how to relax on cue. I feel that this is important because you never know when a time can start to become stressful so it is important to learn how to control your thoughts and become relaxed. I know that personally when I am relaxed I am so much more productive then when I am stressed and hopefully these few things we learned from the video will help me become more of a relaxed person.
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